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Helen Andelin, by the Chicago Sun-Times on her 50th birthday. |
October 2006 How Do You Rate Your Marriage? It is a very good thing to rate your marriage, to see in what direction you need to grow. You can rate your marriage by taking the following test: ( ) Extremely Happy: My marriage is all I had hoped and dreamed it would be. My husband cherishes me and would do anything to make me happy. He treats me like a queen. ( ) Very Happy: My husband loves me and we have a good relationship. We do have certain problems but I understand this is normal. He treats me with kindness, respect and often tells me he loves me. |
( ) Happy: I have a good, solid marriage that I think will endure. We have some problems between us and frequent friction but I feel he essentially loves me, although he does not often express it. There is a strong bond between us.
( ) Mediocre: Although we have no serious, threatening problems, our marriage is rather dull and uninteresting. My husband is critical of me, neglects me, takes me for granted, doesn't do things for me or take me places. He usually shows little interest in making our marriage better.
( ) Unhappy: I am disappointed in my marriage. My husband doesn't understand me, is harsh and critical, spends most of his spare time away from home, is usually cold and indifferent, but not necessarily in sex. He keeps his thoughts to himself, seldom tells me he loves me and doesn't do anything he doesn't have to.
( ) Very Unhappy: My husband is cold and indifferent towards me and acts like he doesn't like or respect me. He is soften harsh and critical. He never does thoughtful things for me or appear to care about his home life or the children.
( ) Desperately Unhappy: My husband has told me he doesn't love me anymore, and that he doesn't enjoy being around me or the children. He doesn't have an interest in marriage, or making any improvements, and acts like marriage is something to be endured rather than enjoyed.
If you rate near the bottom, and think there is no hope for you, let me enlighten you. No matter where you rate on this chart you can rise to the top and even beyond. It is all a matter of following certain universal laws as I have explained in Fascinating Womanhood. Everything in this life is governed by law! There are laws governing science, math, chemistry, music, the planets as they move in their orbit, and the laws of nature and growing things. Just as certain, just as predictable are the laws of human relationships. If you are obedient to these laws you will have success. The success of Fascinating Womanhood has been phenomenal. In all of these 42 years since it was first published, the success has been tremendous, reaching women of every race, religion and culture. Here are a few samples that continue to pour in:
A Hidden Treasure
"Thank you, thank you, thank you!! May the Lord bless you for all the joy and goodness with which you have enriched the world you live in, and for all the joy and goodness with which you have enriched my family! I am taking the FW course at this time with your lovely daughter, Kristine in Northern Virginia. She asked for success stories, so here is just one small aspect of my journey into the FW world, which I would love to relate to you.
"My journey into the wonderful world of Fascinating Womanhood all began about four years ago when I found myself literally on my knees with my hands folded in prayer, asking our Heavenly Father for His light into the following problem in my marriage. Although I knew I had a wonderful husband who was an excellent provider and a great, dedicated husband and father to our children in every way, there was definitely something missing. Something was very wrong, and I could not put my finger on it. It was almost tangible; my husband was unhappy about something, and I knew this but didn't know why. And there we were, not thriving as we had done in earlier years, and I, for one had not a clue as to the 'why' of it all.
"So there I was kneeling in prayer, and this earnest seeking took place for about three months until something happened. My husband took us on our yearly vacation in the mountains. When we arrived in town we passed the local new library which had a sign posted in large letters: "BOOK SALE". After we arrived at our house and unpacked, and knowing how much I like to read, my husband was good enough to hand me the car keys to head over to the library and seek out some "hidden treasures." Well, a hidden treasure was what I found that day!
"I was in the book sale room leafing through books when I happened upon a thin, white rather old fashioned book which had a most curious title: Fascinating Womanhood. Wow, I thought. What could that mean? Fascinating? Womanhood? Woman was many things, but Fascinating? Then I opened quickly to a few pages and saw words like "childlikeness," "sympathetic understanding" and "masculine and feminine" No, I thought. Sorry, not my kind of book. Put it back. It sounds too unusual. So, that's what I did. I put it back on the shelf and walked away. But as I did so I whispered a prayer that if there was something in that book that I needed, the Lord would get it somehow into my hands. And that was that.
"So I finished my treasure hunting with five or six books and headed out to pay the librarian. "How much? I asked, pulling a few coins from my pocket. Then the response: "Oh, honey, here's a bag! Fill it up! We want to move those books. "Um....fill it up? Ok, was she in with the Holy Spirit or something?" All I could think about was that little white book which by now I was determined I did not wish to read it. But not being able to refuse this almost certain directive from above, I turned around and marched back into the sale room. Right up to that little white book. 'OK,' I thought, 'for what it's worth, I'll take a look.
"Well, I got that book and the others home from the library, sorted through my new found treasures, then proceeded to place 'that book' way under a stack of others. 'Someday' I thought, 'that will make good reading. But, not today. Definitely not today.' And there it sat. Finally it made it home with me from vacation and there is sat again. For about three months, until . . .
"My friend from AMVETS called for her usual pickup notification, and I readied a large bag of my own treasures to pass on. Now, I thought, yes, this is where this book is meant to go! On to someone else who might find it interesting. Certainly not me! But as I was literally placing the book into the AMVETS bag, I looked at it, took a deep breath and gave in: 'OK, I thought, if I'm going to pass this on, I can at least give it a good skim to see what it's about. So, in keeping with my usual rule about reading books, I opened the front cover and began reading with the Introduction. And so my journey began almost with the first paragraph. I sat down. Oh my, I thought, keep reading... keep reading. This is good... this is true.
"I hadn't gotten farther than the third chapter when I knew without a question of a doubt that this book was the most complete and certain answer to the prayers I had been offering to God or so long about my marriage. This was it. The Holy Spirit had responded to me in a most specific and perfect way. He had sent me a book and an author who could and did answer every single question which had been plaguing me for years. It was Fascinating Womanhood and the author was you. Mrs. Andelin, your book gave us back our joy, and for this I am eternally grateful. Again I can only say thank you, thank you, thank you. May God truly bless you. Thank you again." A devoted reader.
Comments from Grateful Students
"My husband and I have been married for nearly 13 years and have 4 wonderful children. It has always been my dream to be a mother and homemaker fulltime but our financial situation has never allowed for this. As a result I have become a very successful career girl earning almost three times as much as my husband. When I read your book and can see what I have actually done to my husband, when I thought I was helping him, I just cried. Our finances are now so dependent upon my income that it is going to be hard to get out of it, but I am adamant to do so." South Africa
"However brilliant a woman's talents may be, she ought never to shine at the expense of her husband. The government of states and kingdoms, though God knows managed badly enough, I am willing should be solely administered by the Lords of Creation (men). Women should confine themselves to Domestic Government." - Abigail Adams, wife of the President.
"I am a single 20 year old girl, the oldest of 8 children in a conservative, home schooling family. Just a year ago I had the hardest time with my dad and brothers. We would argue and they never wanted to be around me. I didn't like myself; I was so frustrated. I was looking for ways to make especially my relationship with my dad better. I was always reading relationship books to try to find out what I was doing wrong. Then one day at the library I ran into your book. Looking back I don't know why I picked FW up, but something about it intrigued me. I ended up not able to put it down, and my life hasn't been the same since. Now my dad and brothers enjoy spending time with me and my brothers are always sharing their exciting plans for the future with me. I get along with other men too. Before hand they never even noticed me. I just wasn't feminine enough."
Picture of Helen Andelin taken October 2006
