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NOTICE!!  The next Online Class begins Monday, October 2.  The teacher will be Melanie Harper.  We are taking registration's for this class now.  Instructions for enrollment are at the end of this home page.  We are also taking orders for books and workbooks.  See Bookshelf for prices and instructions about ordering.  

     July 2006:

The Feeling of Guilt

In the May issue of this website I said: "If you want a wonderful marriage, don't do or say anything that would make your husband feel emotionally troubled. A man's feelings are always at risk, especially his feelings of pride in his masculinity, the nobility of his character and his intellectual gifts. So avoid any statement that would make him feel less of a man, even by implication. To be specific, don't do or say anything that would make him feel guilty, ignorant, inferior, humiliated, anxious or ashamed."

In this issue I will focus on the feeling of guilt. When a man of character falls beneath his own standards, he just naturally feels guilty. If he learns from this experience it can become a blessing to him, teaching him right from wrong. It is not the role of the wife, however, to invoke this feeling of guilt, or to take steps to increase it.  In fact, a man expects the woman he loves to overlook his weaknesses and see only his better side. To illustrate this point I will refer to an email I received from one of my readers:

 

"I have an issue that I'm not exactly sure how to approach. Two days ago I found out my  husband has been looking at porno on the internet when I go to the gym.  I came home a little earlier than usual the other day and all the locks on the door were done up (he never locks the door unless we're going to bed.) so I couldn't get in.  In knew he was on the computer and I wondered why he was acting so guilty.  Then, when I got on the computer the following day I noticed that the entire history of visited websites had been wiped out.  My point is, I know what he was doing, but I didn't exactly catch him in the act.  He's also been prodding me lately to wear more revealing clothes in public. It's so different than when we were first married."

 

To face this problem, please understand that the temptation to pornography is great and everywhere present.  Out in the world a man can't pass a row of magazines without seeing something sexy. Then he is tempted to see more.  When the man succumbs to the temptation long enough it becomes an addiction, and like any other addiction the man tends to lose control and surrenders to the addiction. When he brings it into his home, as your husband did, he is treading on dangerous ground for he is inviting the spirit of evil.

 

I suggest you take the initiative to bring a good spirit into your home.  To begin with make certain that no one plays rock music in your home.  Instead, play beautiful, sacred music. You may remember the Bible account of King Saul: When evil spirits entered his home and troubled him, he called for David, the young shepherd boy, to play music for him on his harp "and the evil spirits departed."  Also, keep a clean and orderly household and try to avoid the spirit of contention.  Attend church and do all you can to live righteously.  If at some point you unavoidably "catch him in the act," say something positive, such as "I thought better of a man such as you." This will give him something to live up to.

 

Truth from Within

Truth is within ourselves; it takes not rise

From outward things, what'ere ye may believe.

There is an inmost center in us all

Where truth abides in fullness, and "to know"

Rather consists of opening out a way

Whence the imprisoned splendor may escape,

Than effecting an entry for a light

Supposed to be without.    Robert Browning

The above words by Robert Browning are supported by some of the most recent discoveries of modern psychology.  It is believed that inside of each one of us is a large reservoir of truth. Haven't you ever read or heard something that "rang a bell within you?" Or haven't you received a profound thought or idea that came to you "out of the blue," like a flash of light?"  This is because your mind has touched your inner source of truth. Perhaps this is what Jesus Christ meant when he said, "The Kingdom of God is within you." 

 

Don't think you will learn everything in school. Nor will you be taught only by your family and close associates.  Many of your greatest ideas will come to you from within yourself, from this inner source of truth, this divine light of truth.   

 

Fascinating Womanhood Classes 

 

We continue to encourage live Fascinating Womanhood classes wherever possible, especially in churches, educational institutions and outreach programs. We also encourage women to teach classes in their homes or to form study groups in appropriate places. There is nothing to take the place of live classes where the teacher and her students can personally communicate with each other, and follow up with a monthly graduate meeting. My daughter Kristine has recently taught two FW classes in Virginia and reports that success has been as it has always been through the years, astounding and dramatic.

 

To be a successful teacher you must take it seriously and set aside the time and energy to make it successful. A FW teacher must have 1) A conviction of the teachings, 2) Success in living it. 3) Time to prepare and give a well thought out lesson. It is a most wonderful experience to teach a Fascinating Womanhood class, to bring women out of the darkness and into the light. By teaching these principles you will be part of a worldwide movement that is bringing hope and happiness to women everywhere.  To become an authorize teacher, write to the FW office and ask for a Teacher's Application Form. Fill it out, return to the FW Office and you will receive permission to teach the course. When you have successfully taught three classes you will be eligable to become a Certified Teacher. The Teacher's Lesson Guide and Student Workbooks are now available for both classes and study groups. Call the FW office to order:  1-(888)-890-1750 or write to Fascinating Womanhood, PO box 219, Pierce City, MO 65723.

 

Online Fascinating Womanhood Classes.

 

We now have online Fascinating Womanhood classes. The class is held all day every day Monday through Friday for eight weeks. You can participate in the class any time of the day. The teacher begins each class with a 15-minute lesson, followed by a topic for discussion among the group. A special weekend assignment is given on Friday. The class is limited to 20 students. When 10 students have enrolled, discussions begin. When 20 students have enrolled the class begins. Fee for the class is $35.00, which includes an electronic copy of the workbook. After you have downloaded the entire workbook you can punch 3 holes in it and put it in a loose-leaf binder, or take it to a copy center to have it punched and bound.

 

To enroll in the online class, email us your name, address, phone #, email address and the $35.00 enrollment fee, which includes an electronic copy of the FW Workbook.  You may pay by credit card or check.  We will forward this information to your online teacher and she will get in touch with you and give you instructions for logging into the class. The next Online FW Class is scheduled to begin Monday, October 2. 

 

Bulletin Board

 

Lisa McCarter, one of our experienced teachers, will begin a new class Thursday, September 7 in Southaven Mississippi. Classes meet on Thursday mornings from 9:30 to l1:00 at the park behind Goodman Oaks Church of Christ in Southaven, MS 38671. For more information please call 662-895-4843 or 662-404-5652.  No fee for the class.  Lisa reports: "God is really meeting with us. I excitedly look forward to strengthening his community, one marriage, one woman at a time.  (We will announce classes sent to us, and open to the public.)

 

Comments from Grateful Students

 

"Let me take the priviledge of telling  you how much FW has meant to me. It is one of the most beautiful, well written books I have ever read. It lifts one's spirit to a higher, more gracious plane and makes me want to be a better wife, mother and friend."

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"FW has had a tremendous impact on my life and our marriage.  Celestial love is precious and fulfilling. When I started reading FW it all sounded so idealistic, but now that I have lived to see and experience the effect the changes in myself had on my husband and our home, I'm grateful, happy and inspired!"         

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"I'm amazed at the difference in myself.  In the beginning I was so hostile and suspicious! What I thought was impossible, and possibly nonsense, has turned out to be a blessing, and although I have a log way to go I feel a profound sense that i'm on the right road and have the right perspective at last."

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"Tonight Michael made a fire in the firepit outside. He asked me to grab some drinks and join him. We talked for over an hour. He told me that I had improved so much from last fall. That I am happier now, more fun to be around and as result he is happier too.  He also said that he sees in me all that makes his life good.  I started to cry.  He said that he would rather spend time with me than watch T.V.  It's nights like this that I live for."

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"I am happier now than I have been in a long time.  I have developed more self-confidence and a sureness about myself.  I feel beautiful, which in turn makes me walk tall and act differently.  I notice because people who see me smile and always say hello.  These things I attribute to learning about FW.  I have learned sooooo much and want to say 'thank you' to my teacher for her candid expressions and encouragement."