I have received a lot of comments from the article I wrote last time about Pride and Prejudice, to illustrate what loving a woman does to a man. Here is an interesting letter from a television actor and director who had the following to say about the intense feelings a fascinating woman can awaken in a man:

"I, myself have been bewitched by a couple of women in my lifetime and, in fact, it was only after reading your book that I discovered what mysterious power these women had over me and the whys and wherefores behind it. I know from my own experience that your description of the ideal IS the ideal woman from a man’s point of view, and such a woman does instill unbelievable intense feelings within a man, to the point that such women become irresistible and they draw out the chivalry in a man like a magnet.

“Nevertheless, such women are incredibly scarce.  I’ve met only two women in my life who approach the whole ideal. All others had but bits and pieces without really knowing how to “fascinate” because it really is like being under a powerful spell.  This is a shame because I’ve experienced what it feels like being bewitched by a woman and although it feels almost painful in its intensity, it is the only state a man wants to be in, once he’s felt it. That so many women do not know how to do this is a tragedy. Your book is a godsend, since it teaches the art of fascination, yet I find many women won’t even open the pages of it.”


An Opposite Point of View

The following is a letter from a woman who apparently has not opened the pages of the book, yet judges it harshly: “Unfortunately ideas like yours are why abuse towards women and children is still tolerated in this society and others.  Women have the responsibility to pull their own weight around in this world.  We don’t educate our daughters so they can smooch off their husbands, pretend to be dumb and not contribute their share. Women who don’t work and don’t pay into social security are hardly engaging in personal responsibility. In addition they are jeopardizing the welfare of any children they may have and certainly are not good role models for their children. Your book encourages deceit and manipulation, hardly values that are considered moral.  You give a bad name to women who work hard, pull their own weight and don’t act stupid just to appease their “man.” And any man who finds this attractive has a screw loose.  Susan Heckendorn.  susan.heckendorn@ssa.gov.


My Own Comments

As I read the above letter I could not help thinking of the message in the little play, When Queen’s Ride By which is: “A woman does not help her husband by overburdening herself with his work, but by being feminine, domestic and building his self esteem.”  We no longer carry this little play but you can order it from Baker Plays in Boston, Massachusetts. I also thought of the words of Victor Hugo, “There is in this world no function more important  than that of being charming, to shed joy around, to cast light upon dark days . . . Is not this to render a service?”  If you make your husband happy, and awaken his passionate love for you, he will have the strength and incentive to take on his masculine responsibility to make the living without your help. 


A Letter of Gratitude

From San Croix: “I have been intending to write you for thirty years, but seeing your response to my sister’s letter regarding Pride and Prejudice inspired me to stop putting it off.

I discovered FW about thirty years ago. I had converted to the Muslim faith a few years before and was in the early stages of my marriage with small children.  My faith clearly outlined the role of men and women, teaching them to be supporters, guides in religion and protectors of their families, as well as teaching women to obey their husbands and seek to please them at all times.

“I did my best to implement these teachings as well as I could and bemoaned the fact that there were not older women in our community who could be practical examples for us. Then God sent your book to me and I began to faithfully implement it’s teachings and promulgate them to others. My husband responded so beautifully and he also began to spread the message of your teachings with enthusiasm. 

“He is so in love with me that I find it hard to believe. He thinks of me as the most beautiful, feminine woman in the world.  Everyday he tells me that he loves me and not in a rote way but with passion!  And we have been married for nearly thirty three years.  I wish every woman would submit herself to God’s teachings and discover for herself what it means to be truly loved by a man.  Even now I try to read FW about once a year to refresh and rededicate myself.  I could go on and on. 

“Thank you so much, Mrs. Andelin, for your courage and conviction in writing and promoting Fascinating Womanhood. Your bravery and dedication in the face of the onslaught of militant feminism puts you in my mind in the same class as the great religious and social leaders who with faith in God went boldly to the forefront of battle with the forces of evil. May God bless you and strengthen you as you serve His cause.  Once again, thank you, thank you, thank you and may God bless you in this life and with the unbounded rewards of the Hereafter.” Sincerely,  Samirah Abdulghani


Pride and Prejudice

The one thing lacking in the story of Pride and Prejudice is a description of Elizabeth’s qualities that awaken a man’s love.  It is evident that she had them in abundance, for the author said, “Darcy had never been so bewitched by any woman as he was by her.” Although the author does refer to Elizabeth as being playful, and at times impertinent, she does not elaborate beyond this.  This lack of description is not a problem for FW students, however,  as we have a rich source from other classical literature in the study of Agnes, Dora, Deruchette, Amelia and Mumtaz. 


Now available from Amazon !!!

To get on to the Japanese site go to www.amazon.co.jp. This will take you to the Japanese site. If you speak Japanese, you can find your way to the order page. Cost of postage for air mailing a book from Japan to the US is 1,200 yen.



The first authorized teacher has been teaching a small group of women in Kanagawa prefecture (neighboring Tokyo). A husband of one of her students opened Pandora’s Box and the wife went through a difficult time. But she trusted her teacher and didn’t give up practicing FW. Now they have a very good relationship and she is grateful to her teacher. The teacher is also planning a two day seminar in June.
     
Another group working well is in Saitama prefecture (also neighboring Tokyo) giving a ten week course. FW was introduced in an article about books for women in a women’s weekly magazine in January. The article included the picture of the book and a comment from the publisher,  Mr. Sugiyama.. Written by Kiyoko Oka, translator and agent for Mrs. Andelin.