My husband and I had a fairly good marriage, but dull! He is a Mexican and likes his woman in the home, without any freedom or social life of any kind. Because I didn’t know how to stand up for my rights I demanded my own way in a lot of things. As a result there was much damage in our relationship.

Now, thanks to FW, I have learned my role and his role. I asked him to take over the masculine chores. He agreed to take his and to let me stay home. Later he decided he didn’t have time for his but I told him that if I did his job I wouldn’t have time to do my own jobs well. So, after several weeks he finally gave in and did them. I didn’t have to beg or remind him. I just decided not to give in and do them myself. Instead I just ignored them. He takes care of all of his role now and I try to do my job.

I have been keeping on the weekly homemaking schedule, which includes taking care of my appearance each morning, and am amazed at how much my appearance affects how much work I get done. My husband has noticed both my appearance and how nice the house looks and has complimented me. I never used to get cards or gifts from him, not even for my birthday or Christmas. This May I got both a card and cologne for my birthday. A couple of weeks ago he said to get my sister to sit with the girls. He said he needed some things at the store. That day he bought me two skirts, 2 blouses and a pair of shoes. I haven’t had new shoes for about five years. He has promised to take me shopping until I have a complete new wardrobe.

Last week I asked him where he and his brother were off to. He said, “None of your business.” When he got back he presented me with a new vacuum cleaner. Last night mom came over to sit with the girls so my husband and I could go out alone. We looked at lots of bedroom furniture and wallpaper for the living room and kitchen, tile and lots more to get ideas how to redo our home.

Thank you, FW for teaching me how to be the kind of wife and woman God wants me to be. I know I have a long way to go, but at least now I know which way to go. I realize now I can’t change my husband but the more I conform to God’s way, the more God works with him and makes these changes in my husband.

When I first took FW my husband and I were trying to get back together after a separation and almost a divorce. FW opened my eyes to the fact that I had a lot of problems myself that needed to be straightened out immediately. After looking at myself through what FW expected a wife to be, I can see why we had such serious problems. Worst of all, I had been a self-righteous woman who noticed only my husband’s faults and thought I had none. And, of course, I always let him know his faults were showing. Everything a woman could do wrong to make her husband feel unneeded or unloved, I had done. And not until I took this course did I realize my mistakes and where my help lies.

At first things got worse. The nicer I tried to be the nastier my husband was. He tired to bring me down but I know now that if I keep the rules of FW and have faith in God to guide me, those feelings we first had for each other will come back. They are coming back. He is now trying to treat me more like a lady because I have shown I can be one. Sometimes I slip back and things get a little rough but our problems didn’t happen over night and neither will the mending.

I hope this class will help others as much as it has helped me. Being a fascinating woman is a lot more fulfilling than being a woman who thought life would be better without her husband’s love. I’m starting to really feel like a person again as well as the woman my husband wants and needs as his wife. I will try hard to follow the rules of FW and with the help of God will someday soon have that happy marriage