Written to a teacher in a live class: I cannot tell you how much this course has meant to me. Although I have had the book for a number of years, it is like the Bible. We must study it and apply it to our lives, which I had not completely done. I have a great husband and a good marriage but when we studied the chapter on “Family Finances” I realized I had been taking something away from my husband. I have always managed the money and I did lots of complaining about not being able to stretch the paycheck enough to cover the bills.

My husband never wanted me to work and I worked one year against his wishes and decided it was not worth what it was doing to our marriage, along with taking over the responsibility of money management. I also took over other decisions that should have been his, about what the children should do and where they should go. He worked long hours so I just took lots of decisions upon myself and I thought I was helping him but now realize I wasn’t.

After studying this course that includes “Family Finances” I showed him the husband and wife responsibilities and told him that this was too big a worry for me to manage the money and I thought he was stronger and I asked him if he would take this responsibility from me. He said he would and that he never knew I had worried about it.

When I was paying the bills and he wanted and to buy something, even for me, I would say we can’t afford it but not anymore. That is his decision and he needs it to be more fulfilled as a man. After 19 years of marriage he is king in our house. I am a happier person and so are my children. We need more beautiful Christian ladies like you teaching!

I just finished reading Fascinating Womanhood and am very excited about it. I have been married for 27 years and it seemed all the romance, thoughtfulness, affection and love had gone out of it. I thought all the time it was my husband’s fault but after reading your book I realize I have been doing everything wrong for years. I felt my husband wasn’t on the same spiritual level I was (self-righteousness) and I became critical, a fault finder, a nag, and almost drove him away from the church completely.

After studying FW I realize I have brought out the worst in him, instead of looking at all of his good qualities and he has many as I’ve discovered. I kept arguing with him over his faults. Only after reading your book yesterday did I realize I have as many or more than he does. I kept envying everyone else with their thoughtful, loving husbands and wondered why I never got flowers, a door opened and that special attention. I kept saying it was the way he was raised, by a grandmom, not a mother or father. She showed him no love or thoughtfulness so I was trying so hard to change him. I wanted to make him more spiritual, more thoughtful and loving because he was always arguing. cussing, irritable, moody, weighted down with the pressures of keeping a real estate office and being broker and president. It’s at a critical peak and was when he bought it and he’s worried he can’t pull it out and he will fail. Well, everything you said in the book not to say and do I’ve been doing. I had already accepted his failure, made his temper worse and had really brought out the worst in him. “Where did he get these wrong attitudes and ideas?” I haven’t done a right thing except let him handle the finances, which he does.

I was talking to a friend of mine, telling her I think I would be a lot happier living alone. Our children are all grown and gone but a fight starts every time one calls and needs money. I want to give it to them and he doesn’t. I now realize he is right. If we constantly let them lean on us they’ll never stand on their own two feet and be self-reliant. Well, my friend said I could read her book, Fascinating Womanhood and she thought it would help me. I know it will. I’m going to make my home a heaven on earth, like I always wanted it to be and I’m going to start with me.

I always blamed our unloving home on my husband. After reading your book I realize it’s up to me to have things right. I don’t even fix him dinner half the time. I’m always late, and he hates that. I do nothing to make him really want to love me. I apologized to him and told him I was sorry that I’ve really not been the wife he should have and that I plan to change and be better. He was sweet and said that I didn’t do so bad.