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Fascinating Womanhood is so foreign to my nature that it was difficult for me to apply. I’m loud, obnoxious and dominating. I was about as feminine as a man but I don’t want to be anymore. My husband and I had separated. I see why now. Then I didn’t. The children were the ones who suffered the most. I have a teenager who was absolutely crushed by it. My husband left for a harlot, left his job, everything for her. I couldn’t understand then. |
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Then a friend gave me FW to read. I let my hair grow, let my nails grow, lost 20 pounds and bought dresses.
I’d always been heavy with short, slicked back brown hair. I went from size fourteen to a perfect nine.
I bleached my hair like it was when I was young and got a new feminine hair style. When my husband came
to visit he didn’t even recognize me. The children and I applied Fascinating Womanhood. The funny part is
that everything I said was the truth. I hadn’t realized what I had. He really is a marvelous man. I just
never told him that before. When my dear husband and I married I lacked the knowledge of how to be a wonderful wife and helpmeat. Of course, I had observed my parents marriage but was personally unprepared for marriage. Although I was raised in a conservative Mennonite church, society at large had taught that marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the fact that my husband is male does not grant him ultimate leadership privileges. I believed that submissiveness on my part was admission of low intelligence and endorsement of anarchy, rather than an expression of love. I longed for a marriage in which I honored him and he cherished me, but had no clue of how to achieve that dream. My selfish pride and defensiveness stood in the way. I expected him to hurt me and belittle me and refused to believe he had my best interests at heart. After several years of a confusing marriage I cried to God for help. My husband and I loved each other deeply but I simply did not know how to be the wonderful wife I longed to be. Soon thereafter I entered a gospel bookstore and prayed, “Lord, please, please direct me to a book that will help me.” Out of the hundreds of books He brought my attention to a pretty little book titled Fascinating Womanhood. I purchased it and have not been the same since! God opened my eyes with the help of that book. I was horrified at the selfish, defensive woman I had become, and realized I had failed miserably as a wife, and as a daughter of the Most High. Slowly, with God’s help and by following the advice of Fascinating Womanhood, my attitudes began to change. The path before me seemed illuminated by the very knowledge of God. Ultimately my path is lighted by the Bible but FW helped me understand Biblical guidelines and commands given to women. It showed me that the Bible’s distinct roles of the sexes are as practical and applicable today as they were 2000 years ago. Almost immediately I felt a change come over our marriage. Although my husband appeared to make some changes as well, I firmly believe that I did not change him. As FW teachers, the only hope that a man will change to not try to change him. FW equipped me with the knowledge of how to be a wonderful wife and how to have a celestial marriage by changing myself, instead of trying to change my husband. I will be forever grateful to you for writing Fascinating Womanhood and so will my husband.
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