By Helen Andelin, Author of Fascinating Womanhood
For you readers who don’t know what this is all about, The Fascinating Girl is a book to single girls, teaching them the angelic and human qualities found in Fascinating Womanhood, qualities that are so essential to their personal development and happiness, and so attractive to men. In addition to the angelic and human qualities, the book contains a special section for the older single woman, serious about getting married. She may have already found the man of her dreams and only needs some coaching on how to avoid mistakes that may drive him away, or how to help him overcome his fears and take on the heavy responsibility of marriage.
As many of you know, The Fascinating Girl is not a new book. It was first published in 1970 under the title, The Fascinating Girl and remained so until 1994 when I made some revisions and improvements and changed the name to The Secrets of Winning Men. It soon became obvious that changing the name was a mistake. Now it is in print under its original title and contains the best of both books.
Is Fascinating Womanhood Manipulative?
This is a tricky question, the normal answer being, “No, it is not manipulative.“ The true answer is: “Fascinating Womanhood can be manipulative if you live it only to gain a benefit for yourself.” With a little sad experience in this direction you will come to find that selfish motives always fail in one way or another. If you want the true fruits of Fascinating Womanhood you must direct your efforts to filling your husband’s needs and creating a happy marriage for both of you.
Reach for the Stars
Assignment: As you live these teaching always have the high goal in mind - a deep-seated feeling of true love between you and your husband. Remember, it is just as important to love as to be loved. Living the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood will help you to love, as well as to be loved. To remind yourself of this high goal, place a flowering potted plant in your kitchen this month. Even a tiny one will do. And remember this: It is only a man’s love that can cause a woman to bloom. When you see your flowering plant in the kitchen, ask yourself if you feel in bloom. If you do it will show in your face and manner.
During this month keep in mind the time you first fell in love. Then, remember your wedding day. Love like this was made to last and to grow. The vows you took were likely a commitment to keep this love alive and growing. With this thought in mind I would like to quote from a scene in the early movie “Woman of the Year” with Kathryn Hepburn and Spencer Tracey. In the movie their marriage was about to fall apart until K. Hepburn attended a friend’s wedding and was reminded of her marriage vows: Here is how the marriage vows were spoken:
“Dearly beloved, we are gathered here together in the sight of God and in the face of his company to join together this man and woman in holy matrimony, which is an honorablistic institution of God and which is therefore not to be entered into unadvisably or lightly but reverently, discreetly, soberly and in the fear of God.
“You are performing an act of utter faith, believing in one another to the end. As the bride gives herself to the bridegroom, let him be to her a father and mother, sister and brother and most sacredly a husband. As he gives himself to her, let the bride inspire and sustain him in all of the experiences of life to which their paths shall lead, the great moments and the small, that the joys of each shall be the joys of both, and the sorrows of each the sorrows of both.
“ If you wish your new estate to be touched with lasting beauty, cherish those gracious visions of your first love, let them not be blurred by the common events of life. Be not moved in your devotion. Believe in the ideal you saw once. It still exists. It is the final truth.”
Comments by Grateful Women
“My secretary gave me the book when I was sharing my frustration with her about my daughters relationship with her boyfriend. My daughter is a junior in college and going with a great guy, yet they are always in a fight about the dumbest things. When I gave her my book she thought it was for us “old people.” However, one day in a state of depression she applied some of the principles and “Wow.” I’ll just say that she too is now a firm believer in FW. THANK YOU. This is the only book that anyone needs to read on this subject. Your book saved Kim’s doomed relationship. I wish I had known all this when I was her age.’
Bulletin Board
An online Fascinating Womanhood class is currently available. The teacher is Sandra Schindler from Pennsylvania. She is a moderator for the lady friends email group. She will be teaching within a special website. set up for classes that includes email lists, chatrooms and other features. You may participate in the class by posting an email to the list or by posting from the private website. There will be opportunity to order workbooks and scriptural reviews before the class begins. If you would like to take part in the next online course of Fascinating Womanhood, please send an email to Sandy at krafteeladeeii@aol.com or to Susan at lambie93@yalhoo.com.
“Is anyone teaching a FW class in Greenbelt, Maryland? If so please get in touch with
me as I would like to attend. My address is: Nadase Proctor, 7718 Hanover Parkway, Suite T-2, Greenbelt, Maryland. 20770. Phone: 30l-44l-l988.”
Nadase
This class has begun but perhaps you could call the teacher and make up the first lesson:
Lisa McCarter will began a FW class Wednesday, January 22 in Olive Branch, Mississippi. To get in touch with her call Lisa McCarter, 662-895-4843
http://www.fascinatingwomanhood.net
andelins@sofnet.com
January 2003
I want to apologize for this long delay in the publication of my book, The Fascinating Girl. If you have given up hope of it ever being in print, I don’t blame you. Someone called today to say they resorted to surfing the Internet for a copy, but when they found a used one for $45.00, they decided to wait a little longer for the new edition. The good news is that the publisher will be taking orders the first of February. To order your copy call 1st Books Library at 1-888-280-7715. It will be mailed to you within three days.
