By Helen Andelin, Author of Fascinating Womanhood
Since the first of the year I have received letters from women in ten countries, appealing to me to get FW into their languages and available in their countries. Their countries are Indonesia, Russia, Poland, Holland, Germany, Breganzona, Zimbabwe,
Maylasia, Mongolia, South Africa.
In answer to their appeals I suggested something like this: Find the top publisher in your country, make an appointment with the CEO, take him your Fascinating Womanhood book, tell him how you feel about it and its importance to the women of your country. The following is an account of how Lizca Lee, a young woman from Indonesia followed my suggestions and her efforts paid off. Perhaps it can inspire other women to make contacts that will lead to equal success.
“Before I started to look for a publisher I was a bit anxious because I never did it before but I followed your instructions to talk about my own experiences after I read the book. I also wrote a letter and translated 2 true stories from the book. I then contacted Bethlehem Ministeries in Jakarta. I knew about them from the books I saw in a bookstore which are published by that company. I found its phone number from the yellow pages, dialed the number and spoke to the General Manager, Mr. Jonathan Prawira. I talked about the FW book and my intention to look for a publisher to publish the book. He was very keen with idea to translate and publish the book in Indonesia and asked me to send him the book.
A few days later I went to Mr. Prawira’s office to give him the Fascinating Womanhood book. I also gave him the 2 true stories from the book that I had translated and also my letter. A few days later I called him and, Praise God, his company has agreed to publish Fascinating Womanhood in Indonesia. The company has just started a woman’s ministry project so this book came just in time. I asked him to find a good translator who can translate the message into Bahasa Indonesian so it will not loose its meaning. They already have someone in mind.
I believe it was God who helped me to find the publisher. God answering my prayers is really happening in my life. Seven years ago my English was very poor. (Now it is not so bad anymore.) There are so many good books written in English and I could not read them because I didn’t understand English. I studied English in schools but it didn’t help much. So I asked God to help me to learn English. Guess what He did. He knows me so well. He guided me one step at a time. First, He brought me to an English speaking church and there I met my husband who grew up in Australia and speaks excellent English.
We moved to Singapore in 1998 which exposed me to the English language even more. God also blessed me with good friends who helped me to grow spiritually and have a closer walk with God. Meanwhile I also faced problems in my marriage and God sent your book to me. He made all things beautiful in His time. Now, besides working as a full time wife and mother I teach the Beginner Class (0-3) years old) in my church. (I didn’t have the confidence before) I also joined the Women’s Ministry to do visitation once a week and I always share Fascinating Womanhood whenever possible.
Admiration
The most important thing you will ever do to awaken your husband’s deepest feelings of love for you is to admire the masculine things about him. And if you genuinely feel that admiration in your heart, and express that admiration with sincerity, it will affect him profoundly. However, it is not likely you will feel such admiration in your heart by just reading the book. You must first understand and live all of the principles.
Right now you may not find anything to admire about him, especially sincerely admire. You may even feel a little guilty to admire him in words when you feel nothing in your heart. But things change as you live Fascinating Womanhood. You become a better woman, an adorable, angelic, fascinating woman, far less critical of him and more introspective of yourself and your own weaknesses and limitations. Instead of making him over, you begin making him happy. This brings about a reformation in him so that he becomes his better self, one you can sincerely admire.
If he is a man who has slipped far below his potential, remind him of who he is, a spiritual offspring of his Father in Heaven, with divine attributes that are part of his true nature. Let him know that even the best of men are not the men they could be, or should be, and that he can be equal to any of them. You, the wife, hold the keys to inspiring him to be his better self. You do this by your unshakable faith in his better side and your sincere admiration of what you believe is his true self. In addition, if you live all of the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood consistently and devotedly you can transform him.
Do you want to know what one of my goals is? I would like to bring the whole world to a rude awakening. I would like everyone to know that they do not have to tolerate a dull or unhappy marriage, that a happy marriage is well within their reach, that it can grow more intense through the years, that this kind of love is the most wonderful feeling in the world and no one should settle for anything less.
When men see the fruits of these teaching, when they see marriages flourishing in large numbers, and their own marriage stagnant and boring, they will not put up with it any more. They will walk away. Women may hang on a little longer, as is their nature, but men will not, not when they know there is something better, and the only reason their marriage remains stagnant is because their wife is not willing to change. No longer will a woman get by being sharp tongued and critical with an exaggerated viewpoint of her own superior virtues, while her husband is starving for a word of appreciation and kindness. No longer will he overlook a disorganized, cluttered household, with meals never regular or on time. He will naturally make comparisons between the women who are ideal wives and contrast it to his own careless and unfeminine one. This will be the rude awakening.
Comments from Grateful Students:
“We are on week two in the Fascinating Womanhood class in our church and enjoying every minute of it. I am a pastors wife and always giving my copies away, then buying a new one. I went on amazon.com tonight to the used books and found copies of FW and MSV at a much higher price then the new ones. I thought that was interesting. Also, most of the paperback books were described as well worn. How wonderful!!! I am glad to see that FW is still going strong!! God bless and take care of yourself. We need you for many more years! LM “
“I am an ordained woman on a staff with three other pastors. I oversee the small group ministry of our church. Because so much in our culture has changed, I wasn’t sure the teachings of FW would be accepted in the 21st Century Church. But I have to tell you that beginning last January I did a brief overview, just once a month, of the concepts of Fascinating Womanhood. The women loved it. One stood up in church and gave a testimony, tears streaming down her face as she said she had never really understood her husband until now. I was amazed at how powerful the truths still are, and of course they would be, as they are God’s truths and truth never changes.” CP
“It has been eleven months now and I have not won my husband back, but I have grown as a person in ways that I never could have without your wisdom. I want you to know that I think of you like a mother. You are very special to me.”
“Below is a paragraph from a lady who is also a Hare Krishna devotee like me and belongs to the same email forum called dharma-patni, which means religious wife in Sanskrit. I had written her reminding her to keep in touch with FW. Her response made me laugh because it is exactly like my experience with copies of FW. I thought you’d enjoy reading her comments: Francie
“Regarding FW, I wish I could read it, but I can’t keep a copy for 5 minutes. I keep giving them away. I think I’ve given away about eight of them over the last eight years, whenever someone’s marriage is trying or in trouble I force the lady to read the book. I just bought another last month for myself, FG for my daughter. She read them both but I wound up giving FW away again last week before I got to a single page. I did read it when I first got married and without a doubt it saved our marriage. I wouldn’t have lasted six months without the wonderful insight from that book and I still draw upon it every day. “
For some time now we have had a discussion group on this website, that women may get to know one another, help one another and even teach one another. This has been quite successful in the number of visitors to the site and the sound advice given by the members to one another. You may also be interested in joining one of the following:
The Lady Friends Group: http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/FascinatingWomanhood
For those who would like to join a group of lady friends with a focus on Fascinating Womanhood ideals, please visit the above website and subscribe to our mailing list. These ladies are interested in making every day special, in working sincerely at living Fascinating lives and encouraging each other each step of the way. They are a very warm, loving group who would love to have you join them if you are interested in continuing your study of Fascinating Womanhood and advancing in living it.
Ladies Against Feminism: http://www.ladiesagainstfeminism.org. If you would like to keep informed about the dangers of feminism, and how you can help stem the tide against their destructive influence, visit this web site. Ladies Against Feminism is a good source of information on the following topics:
Be sure to visit Lady Lydia Speaks. It is overflowing with ideas about femininity, romance and homemaking,
Bulletin Board
“I am looking for other women in the Minneapolis area who may be interested in supporting each other. I don’t feel qualified to teach a class but I would enjoy meeting with any ladies who would enjoy getting together for encouragement and support. If there is someone in this area teaching a class I would be very interested. You may contact me at 952-808-8199, or liesl@electrocreative.com Thank you, Liesl.”
“I would like a pen pal. DianeStewart123@comcast.net. Thanks, Diane.”
“I am interested in FW classes in Colorado, Monument or Colorado Springs. Thank you. Vanessa Hodgson scully@integrity.com”
“I would like to attend a class or get in touch with anyone in Central Florida. Thank you, Kathy Conner, Winter Haven, FL Ladylovesred49@aol.com.”
“I would love to attend classes somewhere. Do you know of any in the Farmington, Missouri area, near St Louis or Cape Girardeau? Deborah Mc Carver, mccarvr@i1.net.”
We have had an inquiry about where to order the Japanese versions of Fascinnating Womanhood and The Fascinating Girl. Order by Fax: 03 3988 7062 The World Wide Web: www.cos21.com or by Email: info@cos21.com
Assignment: Look over the pages in your Love Booklet. How long has it been since you have written in it? If it has been awhile, your husband has not likely said or done anything worthy of recording. Take this as a signal that you must not be living Fascinating Womanhood as well as you should be. Review the Table of Contents and select a chapter you may be weak in. Read the entire chapter. Fill the assignment and hope for the best. If you have a glowing success story, send it to this website and we will include it in a future edition.
http://www.fascinatingwomanhood.net
andelins@sofnet.com
November 2002
