My Heart is Full

"I have been married one year and eight wonderful days. I love it! I didn't love it as much in the beginning. We were fighting a lot. One day I just got tired of it and went to the ladies house that did our marriage counseling. She suggested I read FW. I got it the next day. In one week I noticed the changes. He was going out of his way to bring me lunch and just looking at me in a new way, like he adored me. We still have our moments but it is a hundred percent better. I can't tell you how much I love him. I am thankful that God brought this book to me now, not after we had been married twenty years.

"There was a girl sitting at my desk at work. She started looking through the book. I told her it was a wonderful book and asked her what she thought of it. She couldn't even speak. Then she finally said, "It just grinds me." She stuttered for a while and said, "I guess I'm just not cut out for marriage." I feel bad for her. I want everyone to feel the way I do. My heart if full and I just wanted to thank you for writing the book." J.

I Am Swallowing Every Sentence

"It was a pleasure to read Fascinating Womanhood. I believe that God directed me to find this book. You just don't know how much I have learned so far! You have opened my eyes to the stark, naked truth of being a woman, a wife and most of all how to relate to your husband in a marriage.

"I am literally swallowing every sentence. I am reading it not only with my intellect but with my spirit. Even though at first I thought your ideas were archaic, ancient and unpopular, after reflecting on them I find them to be the biblical truths to living in a husband/wife relationship.

"Let me tell you a little about myself: I am 30 years old and have never been married. I have been in three different serious relationships that could have led to marriage but it never happened for me. In my last relationship I was engaged for one year and it ended up with a broken engagement. I was baffled. I couldn't understand what was happening to me or what I was doing wrong.

"Through the pain I began to concentrate on my relationship with Jesus Christ. God is still molding me in many areas of my life, to be the woman he created me to be. As God began to teach me I started to notice my character/nature that has kept me from having a healthy relationship with people, especially with a man. This is about the time God directed me to Fascinating Womanhood. You see, I wasn't raised in a home with a happy, healthy relationship between husband and wife. I didn't know the unconditional love and care of a father. Thank God I now understand the unconditional love of Jesus Christ.

"I was trying to build relationships without doing it God's way. Instead I was selfish, fearful, jealous, distrustful, suspicious, demanding and insecure in my relationships. I was doing everything you said not to do. When I broke up with my ex-fiancé he married another woman a year later. I had a chance to speak with him and he said he has always loved me and still loves me but our relationship just couldn't be.

"Reading your book is like talking to an older, mature and more experienced mother/woman. I am confident because I know that I have Jesus Christ's love, grace and faithfulness in my life. I very much still desire to be a wife and mother, and to build a home and family with my husband, when God opens that chapter in my life. I know he has prepared me for that responsibility."

S.J. - New York


A Bond Between Us I Can't Explain

"I am writing to let you know that I have read and applied the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood. It is wonderful! I hope this letter doesn't turn out to be too long but I have so much to say. I hope I can express just what this has meant to me.

"Since reading Fascinating.Womanhood there have been so many changes in my life I hardy know where to begin. My marriage wasn't on the brink of divorce or anything but tension was building and we both had lost the enjoyment and excitement of marriage. I knew things were not right between us, but I, of course, blamed him and thought he needed to change. In today's society that's how it is always portrayed. I never believed in all this Women's Rights Movement and I'm not liberal but it has influenced women all over the United States, and the world too.

"I had become strong willed. I believed that a woman should be submissive and obedient to her husband, yet I wasn't. We are both Christians and have attended church on a regular basis since before we were married. I had become too dogmatic with spiritual things. I devoted too much time to other people and to church work. I know this is good but it has its place.

"I worried too much about other people and their problems until I left Michael out of my life completely. I sacrificed my family for others. I tried to be too strong, too independent. I was becoming a failure as a wife. He constantly fused and I nagged. I criticized and judged him. I seemed to think I was more spiritual than he was. I had totally neglected my appearance. I never wore makeup and I wore ugly clothes - long denim skirts and plain shirts, very drab. We didn't communicate very well. My way of thinking was wrong. I was unhappy and so was he.

"Needless to say, I needed these teachings so badly. I thank the Lord often for sending this book my way. My life has changed. I feel more of a woman than I have ever felt in my life. I am more satisfied than I have ever been. We have been married eight years and I will have to say I have enjoyed the last ten months more than ever.

"When I started reading the book I thought, this isn't fair. So one night I harped and I nagged. After he went to bed I picked up Fascinating Womanhood. I was reading a list of things not to do. I had just said and done everything wrong. I think that's when it hit me how wrong I had been. I was truly sorry and I told him so. I saw myself as a failure as a wife. I knew than I was going to apply these teachings. I decided if he never buys me anything or never does anything for me I will do this anyway. It was awkward at first but I applied building him up and being completely submissive. When I asked him for things and he said no I said ok, without resentment, (which wasn't always easy).

"I got immediate results, even before I finished the book. I had been doing this for only a week or two. Valentine's Day was coming up. I thought, if I don't get anything, that's fine. He bought me a dress, picked it out himself and got the right size. He has wonderful taste in clothes. The dress was exactly what you recommended in the book - very feminine. It was a beautiful floral print with a white collar trimmed in lace. This is my favorite dress. Since then I have completely changed my wardrobe. Our income is tight so I have learned to sew. I have made lots of things and he more than gladly buys me cloths now.

"It took me a while to apply childlikeness, but I love it! To me it is what brings that extra excitement. We have had many happy moments together; they just seem perfect. We hardly ever argue and when we do I usually pout in a childlike, lighthearted way, and we usually end up laughing! I didn't know it could be this good, it's wonderful! We have had many special moments but I want to share a few of them.

"Michael has controlled the money for about five years. I quit work about five and a half years ago and it wasn't long after that he started handling the money. One day we were making a grocery list. He was complaining and saying I hadn't done it right. I said, you act like I don't know what I'm doing (pouty). He said, Oh, honey I didn't mean to make you mad. I'm sorry (I hear that often now.) He asked me how much money I needed, he usually gave me $40 or $50. I said, Whatever you want to give me. He gave me $40, I didn't say anything. He gave me $60 and said, Is that enough? I didn't say anything. He said, I cannot give you any. Then I said in a helpless way, Well, if you can't give me any then I just can't go to the store, can I? I ended up with $80. If I had argued in a hateful, nagging way I would have done good to have gotten $40. Michael has always been cautious with money so this was very surprising!

"Another special time was when I got to brag on his muscles. I had been hoping for a good opportunity to do this. He was sitting on the couch and he said something about my arms being little. One of the girls said Daddy's arms are big. I said, "Yes, Daddy has big muscles. I felt them and said, Boy, you do have big muscles! He was beaming.

"We had another special time as a family. A few days ago we went to an overlook, not far from our home. Tennessee is beautiful this time of year - mountains with beautiful fall colors. I now enjoy nature and God's beauty so much more than I used to. We took our two girls who are six and three. We had a wonderful time. We picked up pretty leaves and pine cones and tossed acorns at each other. I guess you would describe it as a playful, carefree time. I told him I enjoyed it and he said he did too.

"I just wanted you to know how much this book has meant to me. I have noticed the more I pray and relax and enjoy life, the more natural this all becomes. I catch myself saying and doing things that I didn't used to do. Our love has grown so strong. There is a bond between us that I can't explain. There are times I have felt as if I could burst inside. I tell him he makes me feel like I'm melting! I know he feels this way too. I love him with all my heart, more than I ever have. He is such a part of me now. I know this is what God's word meant when He said, and the two shall be one flesh.

"It has helped our whole family. Our children have a respect and love for their daddy because I do. Putting him first works for the best. They say things like, Daddy has muscles, he is handsome. They act more girlish. My youngest daughter loves pretty clothes, she caught on fast.

"I have purchased four or five copies of Fascinating Womanhood. I pass them out to others, get them back and pass them out again. Not everyone accepts it (their great loss), but I have seen other marriages changed by this. I truly thank you for the effort and many long hours and years you have put into these teachings. If women would apply this there would be few divorces, if any. I would also like to tell you helped me spiritually. I now accept others and I'm not as judgmental as I used to be. Inner Happiness was very good. It helped me come to terms with what was wrong in my spiritual life. The Lord definitely sent your book my way. Thank you and may God bless you.

LR, Tennessee