It is Beginning to Work

I read your book about 15 to 20 years ago but could hardly understand what I was reading due to so much confusion in my background. I put some of the principles to work, and wrote in my Love Diary how well they worked. Then, unfortunately I put the book aside for some years (about 15) thinking it was outdated. Very recently I remembered your book and ordered it through a bookstore. Now, reading it again, it is beginning to work. I understand it better than I did before.

It came back to me through prayer and pleading with God to find help for all of our family, even friends. We have four sons, all in their thirties. One is married and they have a new baby girl, soon to be placed in day care. She is only three months old. Our eldest son was to marry in July. He recently called it off. His fiancé is an attorney, is very broken by this and cannot understand what happened. My son has told me that she has talents enough for three people, doesn't need him or listen to him. He has met another young woman who does. We grew to love his ex-finance'. Our second son is living with an alcoholic who smokes, curses and keeps following after him. Her parents have remarried and divorced two or three times. Our fourth son is going with a young woman who is not right for him. This is a day in day out nightmare for me.

God bless you and your teachings. I wish there were FW classes in our area. If there are none I will hold them in my home. I am sending FW to my daughter-in-law, my son's exfiance'. Thank you again. Yours is the most important ministry in the universe.

Better Than We Ever Could Have Imagined

For a long time I have been directing friends and strangers with marital problems to your book and website for inspiration and guidance. I have made a few email pen pals through Guideposts website and have been able to share my FW testimony with many women who post prayer requests on that website regarding trouble they are having in their marriages. I always recommend your book and website and tell them how important it was to our marriage. As FW is all scripturally based, all God-inspired, it is easy to recommend! And you are right, it's never too late to adopt the FW way of living. And its so much easier to live than the "me first" or women's lib way. It's a relief to let the man be the head of the family, the leader and not feel in conflict or competition with him. When the wife lives the FW way, rewards come unsought and the wife doesn't have to fight for her rights.

The FW way is the only way! How I wish I'd known it when we married. I just never had anyone teach me these truths. My mother was angry and unfilled as a woman and she openly (and to this day) makes "man hating: speeches to any and all who will listen. It took me over half of my adult life (FW was the key) for me to be "deprogrammed." I always felt so sorry for my father, because she almost daily emasculated him. She was the boss in our home and in their marriage and she didn't respect him. He died young at the age of 50, at the time brokenhearted in the midst of a separation, which she initiated because of an affair she was having with another man. I was born in 196l so I grew up with women's lib. I appreciated your February remarks on feminism. How timely and how needed. What poison young women are being fed today. And it's hurting them, their husbands, their children and our whole society. I thank the Lord for your ministry which saved our marriage. Your ministry saved my 20 year old marriage and we are and have been like honeymooners for over 2 years now. We know each other now, we laugh together, we value our time together and protect it. Little problems that have arisen have been handled with prayer and by consulting your book and scriptures for answers. My husband is thrilled to be King of His Castle now and often refers to our marriage as our "new marriage." He says he can hardly look back on the first 20 years as even being a marriage. Each of us was raised by parents who had very troubled marriages, neither of us knew how to be good spouses until I started practicing FW. Indeed we didn't even feel we knew each other until FW became a part of our lives. This new marriage has been better than either of us ever could have imagined. We just didn't know marriage could be like this. I bless you and thank you for your book and ministry and have bought so many copies and given them to friends and newly married women. We actually catch ourselves feeling so sorry for people who don't "get it." This is the way my husband looks at it. How sad, he says, that so many men and women are married and they will never "get it." We mourn together when we hear of divorces and count ourselves blessed indeed to not be among them. Love, inVirgina

The Happiest Woman Around

Fascinating Womanhood was more than fascinating, it was "scary." Women of today are so removed from what should be their lawful right, their deepest innate instincts, their joy, the very heart of their souls. I live in South Africa and I can't think of a place that needs FW more. How sad it is that we are all blinded by worldly ways and being pushed around by Satan. FW puts the life and love of a woman back into perspective.

I am 38 years old and could write a 50 page testimony of where I have been. I have had enough of life's experiences to be an ambassador of your teachings. To mention a few: An unhappy childhood, left home at age 17, young when I got married the first time, divorced, anorexia, 2 weeks in the hospital with a nervous breakdown, a very rockey second marriage, near financial ruin, hearing loss in one ear, a near second divorce and a non-existent sex life. Then to church, to FW and a consistent turnaround in my marriage.

Ten days ago I resigned from my company. Having been the breadwinner of the family one must appreciate the magnitude of this step. I was so desperately unhappy and I don't think my husband could handle it a moment longer. Instead of doing the usual blaming him scenario for my unhappiness of having to work and being all bitter about it, when all I wanted to do was be a wife and mother at home, I asked him to please help me in my desperation. My company was expecting me to travel more and piled more work on me. We worked through everything together and he really was so helpful. I kept telling him how much I appreciated his help.

Financially he was not in the position to make this decision but he did. He told me to resign. I said "what about the money?" He said, "We'll make it happen." He is now in the process of opening a sideline company which he is convinced is going to take off and only with God in our lives do we know that is possible. I am still walking around shell shocked. My company released me immediately and I am the happiest woman around. I know my husband is the happiest man around too. Our relationship switched around over night. I now have time for him, to make him feel special, to make breakfast and little lunches and leave little notes. Our sexual relations have amazingly just come right. My husband was impotent 95% of the time. Making love was just not done in this house. Prior to this we made love, or tried to about 18 months ago. In a nutshell I am being the woman God wanted me to be. My daughter is having to make some adjustments now. She is feeling threatened by this new love we are showing for each other. She wants to sleep in our bed again and is quite clingy at the moment but she has stopped shouting at her Dad, which she used to do a lot (she was copying me.) It made me feel terrible. I knew she was doing it because I was doing it because she idolizes me and she thought it was OK. This will be sorted out in time. We are at last going to be a very happy family, thanks to God. South Africa