The Power of Love

The following account was told to me by my son, Paul, while he was on duty in a rest home: "An elderly man, age 99 was expected to die at any time. His wife, age 101 was in a bed in the same room, but was blind and almost deaf. Paul instructed his aids to bring the wife over close to her husband, as he was expected to die at any moment. When she came near she slipped her hand in his and said, "What seems to be the trouble, Poppy?"

The old man got tears on his eyes, tears running down his face and the nurses were crying too. The outcome was that he revived immediately and lived another month. Such was the power of love.

I was raised in a very female dominated home with a very controlling mother and passive father. I, in turn, married a passive male and found myself in the driver's seat of our marriage. For the first few years it was ok, then I being to tire of "doing it all." I bought FW and began to read it. It was a real eye opener. I had really destroyed my husband's confidence. I am slowly but surely making progress and getting the man I married back! It is some hard stuff to put into practice but the benefits make it all worthwhile.

In September I turned over all of the money to him. I had always paid the bills and said what could be spent and not spent. It is so hard, because I see him putting things off and not paying them. I know he is trying to see if I will take it back. But I have also seen him become much more responsible with money. Thank you so much for taking your time to write the book and also for the web site. I love the weekly assignments.

Several years ago I fell in love with an extremely feminine woman and wondered how she could be so irresistibly attractive to me and have such a powerful effect on me. Then one day I found you book in my mother's closet and began to read it. It was shocking to me because it appeared that you had studied this woman and simply described her characteristics. She was not an American. She was a Spaniard.

I know now the reasons behind the attraction and power. And I also know that her culture is vastly more feminine than our own American culture. There seems to be a dislike among American women of femininity, whereas the Spanish women enjoy it immensely. She did not study your book. Those qualities were in her as a result of her culture and her upbringing. Americans, it seems, are not so fortunate to have these advantages.

I have spoken to many women who have read your book and they just don't seem to get it. I have longed to bring this woman to America to show my female friends what a feminine woman does but this, of course, would not work. They would resent the effort.

Above all else I desire a feminine woman. As I grew up I read novels that presented to my mind the image of a feminine woman, but until I met this woman I had no idea of the effect undiluted femininity has upon a man. I believe American women need your book and I commend you for your efforts. I also have enjoyed your husband's book on masculinity.