He Was Not Pleased With Our Intimate Life

For several months before my introduction to FW my husband let me know he was not pleased with our intimate life. He told me quite bluntly one day to order some books on sex, that we should learn something because our life had become mediocre. He told me that I had inhibitions that I needed to overcome. I was deeply hurt. I had always thought our intimate life was fine, although I knew other areas could stand improvement. So, I ordered books and I looked at pictures and I read. They told of the mechanics of the sex act but nothing of love. I wanted to love and be loved.

In answer to my sincere prayer to God to help me in my marriage, I was literally led into an FW class. I listened like a sponge to my FW teacher. I followed her words in my FW book. I took notes. I listened with my heart and thanked God with my every heartbeat for His answers to my plea. My husband and I had been married for years and had a nice home and three deeply loved children. I so wanted to be what he wanted in every way!

I took each principle into my goal of reaching Angela-Human. In that very first class I changed: From that moment on I would not find fault, criticize him or tell him what to do. I actually had to stop talking for weeks in order to break my habit of nagging and bossing him. In its place I learned to praise him and say words of acceptance and understanding.

Immediately there was a change in my husband. He became less critical, calmer and easier to talk to. As I became more Angela-Human he responded to each principle. After about two months, in the dark of night we talked together of our desires and dreams. I told him I wanted to be all that he desired and that I loved being loved by him. He whispered to me that his happiness centered around his loving me and his coming home to me - these were the most important things in his life.

Our sex problems just weren't there any longer. The solving of them was through a softly but consistent feeding of his soul, by my looking to the good in him and being specific in my admiration, of both his physical person and his human acts. I put him first in my life and planned things just for him and me. I looked to him as leader of our family. In our sex life I am the same me but I have become his bride-lover again. In short, I make our life fun again. I respond to him with my giving love to him. He is happy and satisfied because I have made him happy with himself by living the principles of make him like himself better, or as FW says, feed his soul every day.

I want to assure each of you ladies that living FW will be an answer to most of your unhappy situations. Each principle lived step by step until you become the whole of Angela-Human will bring miracles into your life. I believe a problem in sex between a husband and wife is actually a problem in another area of the relationship, rather like a referred pain in the human body. Go to the real source of the problem. Always know that a man loves and is aroused and satisfied by the woman who makes him feel like a man.

Fascinating Womanhood promises a new beginning. My debt to Fascinating Womanhood can never be paid. It saved our marriage, which had disintegrated into nothing more than a state of anguish and made it an institution of tranquility and love (most of the time.)

The miracles of Lourdes produced no greater miracle than did Fascinating Womanhood for Chris and me. The very day before Chris's discovery of FW we had decided that we had both had enough and that divorce was our only solution. You can well appreciate that Chris did not know that she was a fascinating woman all along. She only had to rid herself of the veneers she acquired along the way. Her veneer or shell was no different than the shells we all wear over ourselves for the protection of assaults upon us - some real and most imagined.

Fascinating Womanhood works for Chris and me because we believe that for us there is no alternative to FW and it's doctrine. There is nothing ritualistic or mysterious about FW and its results. Its concepts are basic. Each woman will find more relevancy in one concept over another and should make the most of that she can do best. She can emphasize or even reject parts of the doctrine that she cannot accept.

The King-Queen concept can be put in an old saying that proclaims you get as you give, and you give as you get. FW says to its adherents that she starts the giving and her husband starts the getting, but it follows that very soon the getter becomes the giver and then, the giving and the getting become a classic confirmation of cause and effect with sweet confusion between what is the cause and what is the effect. Love, sympathetic understanding will beget the same as surely as sunshine follows rain.

Even the miracle of FW cannot perform its wondrous results without work. It's harder to undo old habits than to start with new ways. It would do well to remember the axiom quantitative to qualitative - do it no matter how awkwardly but do it again and again and suddenly you have a qualitative result. For some of you, too, you may have no alternative for FW - do it and do it again. It works!