Marriage, The Fascinating Way

November  2000

Seminar in Namibia, Africa I have been invited to give a Fascinating Womanhood Seminar in Namibia, Africa, Saturday, July twenty first. I have accepted this invitation and plans are in progress. Anyone in this part of the world who wishes to attend, please contact Rika Krugel, P.O. Box 90386, Klein Windhoek, Namibia, Africa. There is a possibility I will also give a seminar in South Africa, following the one in Namibia. As plans materialize, they will be announced on this web site. We have had several inquiries during the past few months about seminars in the U.S. If you would be willing to help us organize a seminar in your area, send an email inquiry to: Dixie Forsyth email address: dixie_forsyth@hotmail.com

Fascinating Womanhood has been taught in a few foreign countries by volunteer teachers. I have personally taught women in the Philippines, Australia, Brazil and many nationalities within the US. I find women the same the world over. We have the same needs and feelings, pretty much the same problems and the same glorious success when we apply the right principles. Years ago a young missionary lady, assigned to a country in Africa, came to me for permission to teach FW classes there. I asked her to keep in touch with me. She began by teaching the white women, but soon primitive black women who lived in nearby huts heard about it and invited her to teach them. She found they had she same needs and feeling, the same problems in marriage and the same success as white women. They want to be loved and cherished as we all do. This seems to unite women around the world.

News from the Philippines

I received an email today from Sally Bangalonta, the FW teacher in the Philippines who has continued the FW program following my seminar in 1998. She reports that she just graduated 32 of her students from the class in Malabon, organized by the Mayor's wife last October. Sally is organizing a "Women's Conference" to be held in Manila in March (Women's Month) or in September ( Filipino Family Week) Sally has asked me to publish the following request:

Would any of you women who are supportive of the FW principles be willing to help me organize a conference in Manila? Or, if you are a qualified lecturer, dedicated to the teachings of FW, would you be willing to give a talk during this conference? If so, please get in touch with me at: sallydb@edsamail.com.ph

News from Japan

Century 21, the publishing company in Tokyo who has been publishing Fascinating Womanhood in Japanese, informed me by email yesterday that the book is now entering its third printing. And here is a message from the translator, Kiyoko Oka, who has been serving as my agent: "Although it doesn't go with the current trend in today's Japan, your book has been helping couples here. I get emails occasionally from people I don't know, telling me the book was recommended by their friends."

Understanding

When I was about ten years old, attending a weekly Sunday school class, a sixteen-year-old girl gave a talk on Understanding. I can't remember much of what she said but it had an impact on my entire life. Her main message kept coming back to me through the years, "most of the worlds problems can be solved by understanding." If you think about it, the nations of the world would get along better if they understood each other. And families would get along better if children understood their parents, and parents their children. And we in FW know so well what miracles happen when wives understand their husbands.

Understanding Your Husband: One of the best educations a woman can have is to learn how to understand her husband. It beats chemistry and math, and will do far more good in the world. You can read all about it in Fascinating Woman. It covers it completely and thoroughly. I would like to focus here on one small part of this valuable education, but a major key to success in marriage. It is one of those magical things that may appear of average importance, but has the power to shake the heavens.

The key I am talking about is this: Look to your husband's better side. Believe he has a better side. Trust he has a better side. What will trust do? When you put your trust in a man, you impel him to measure up to your expectations of him. There is nothing, which so inspires a man to action as when someone puts their trust in him. (FW page 340) As stated by the German author Goethe:

If you treat a man as he is he will stay as he is,
but if you treat him as if he were the man he ought to be,
and could be, he will become that bigger and better man. - Goethe

This past week I watched an old movie I hadn't seen in years, Little Lord Fauntleroy. Although it is the story of an old man and a little boy, it is an excellent example of what treating a man better than he is will do for his character. In the story, a young boy was to inherit the estate and title of his grandfather. The grandfather, whom he had never seen before, turned out to be a grouchy, unreasonable, demanding, selfish and inconsiderate old man. But the young boy treated him as if he were all he ought to be. This transformed the old man. Well worth watching. It left me with a wonderful example to think about.

Assignment for November: Treat your husband better than he deserves.

From Grateful Students:

"Thank you for the wonderful blessing FW has been to me. I am 26 and not married yet but the principles you share are very applicable to my life and have given me a deep sense of peace and confidence in who I am as a woman. I have shared FW with many of my friends and have seen astonishing miracles in their faltering marriages. It is all so fulfilling to me to pass these timeless truths on to others."

"Your book is wonderful!!! I started reading it during some marriage problems and our pastor's wife decided that we should start a ladies cell group in the afternoon to read your book together. There's eight of us, and its great. Thank you for a fantastic book. It is changing our lives and marriages."

Scarecrow and Mrs. King

If you have been watching the SMK episodes on Pax TV you may be interested in two petitions regarding the show. The first is directed to Warner Brothers, requesting that they reproduce the entire series on video and make it available to the public. The second is a request for a reunion movie, a follow up episode with Bruce Boxleitner and Kate Jackson, showing what has happened to Lee and Amanda after all this time. The two stars are audience friendly and therefore warm to the idea. To add your support to the two petitions, click on the link below before the end of November.

The show appears on Pax TV Monday through Friday, 3:00 pm Eastern time/2:00 Central. Pax sometimes changes the time schedule so you have to watch for it. A different scheduling is Saturday and Sunday evenings at 10:00 pm. Some of the episodes are excellent examples of girlish trust, especially Savior and Burn Out. The show glorifies the housewife. Amanda is an excellent example of The Ideal Woman and Lee is very much a Man of Steel and Velvet.

Click here: Nancy's Scarecrow and Mrs. King web site.