Marriage, The Fascinating Way

By Helen Andelin, author of Fascinating Womanhood June 2000 email: http://www.fascinatingwomanhood.net/andelins@sofnet.com

June 2000

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Love is a Feeling

The true love between a man and a woman is an intense, soul stirring, sacred feeling.  I believe it is the nearest feeling one can have to the love of God. In FW you learn how to awaken this intense feeling of love in your husband. And just as important, is for you to love him in return. When a man and woman awaken these exquisite feelings in each other they experience an indescribable feeling of happiness. When they fail, they rob themselves of one of the finer joys in life.

Your husband may be the model of consideration and kindness; he may remember your birthday, take you to dinner, help with the dishes - but these acts alone are not indications of love. They are not feelings.  Without love they are merely acts of duty. You, on the other hand, may be devoted to your husband’s needs.  You may wait upon him night and day, fix him delicious meals, be a model homemaker with his comfort always uppermost in your mind, but if you do not truly love him there will be a deficiency impossible to overcome.

 

How do you know if your husband truly loves you?  The eyes are the windows of the soul.  When you look into your husband’s eyes do you see tenderness and affection?  When he looks into your eyes, does he see warmth and understanding?   Or, do you see in each other impatience, resentment, coldness or even anger?  

  When your husband married you he probably regarded you as an angel without a flaw, the answer to all of his dreams. The feelings you awakened in him were probably intense, almost like pain. If these feelings have disappeared it is because you have disappointed him in some way.  You have not measured up to his expectations. If the fire of love has faded you can rekindle it again.  And if you want it to continue for a lifetime, handle your situation with great care.  Keep your marriage in top priority.  Nothing else is more important, not even the children.  Keep love burning and it will grow more intense through the years.  FW will teach you the way.

 

From Grateful Readers:

  “I have been reading Fascinating Womanhood and have been truly in awe.  My marriage of 11˝ years has been through many trials and tribulations.  We’ve had almost all the abuse a couple could have until 2˝ years ago when I left with our three children.  That seemed to wake us up.  Before I came back he promised to have counseling but if your heart isn’t in it, it doesn’t help.  All went well until five months ago when I could tell we were slipping but I couldn’t seem to help myself.  Our minister said I should read Fascinating Womanhood and my husband should read Man of Steel and Velvet.  It has opened my vision and I have a new desire to take steps to helping our marriage grow to that “dream marriage.”  I want to say thanks and God bless.”  Manitoba, Canada

 

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“My marriage was so–so and in the past few months turned rotten!  We were talking of divorce a few weeks ago, even though I am pregnant.  I picked up a copy of Fascinating Womanhood and slowly started applying the principles. Wow!  What a change in my marriage. We are so happy and my husband is a totally different man.  I’m now a wonderfully happy, excited, newly wed of 5 years. (Or I feel like one.)” 

Michigan

 

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Fascinating Womanhood has had a more profound effect upon my life than anything I have ever read except the Bible.  I work for a shelter for abused women and I can tell you they are teaching them things that are all wrong.  What they need is to teach Fascinating Womanhood

 

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Partners:  We encourage women to find a partner, that you may offer support to one another in living the teachings of Fascinating Womanhood.  There is strength in togetherness.  The partners can be two or more but should be kept to a small group.  If you cannot find anyone near you, email your request to this web site.