Many women who believe and apply the principles of Fascinating Womanhood have a hard time accepting childlikeness, especially "childlike anger." "How can I," they say, "stomp my foot and shake my curls and pout! How can I act the part of a little girl! I would feel so ridiculous! Besides, it doesn't fit my personality. And, why is it so important to marriage, anyway?"

In the first place, when you are angry with your husband you don't have to "stomp your foot and shake your curls and pout." There are many ways of responding with childlike anger - by words, expressions, mannerisms and exaggerations, as I have described in the chapter on Childlike Anger. Study the antics of little children to see the variety of ways they express anger. So, don't cancel out this important principle just because you have difficulty expressing it.

Why is childlikeness so important to marriage? To answer, let's suppose your husband has done something to make you "very angry." He may have been critical, unkind, unfair or overly dominating. How do you respond? Do you fly off the handle with a nasty temper? Shrink back as if struck with a lash? Retreat into your shell? Hold your tongue and smolder inside? Or, do you sit him down and give him a lecture about how he needs to treat you better? None of these responses work in marriage. They create resentments, cool feelings and provoke arguments. They make you look ugly and feel terrible.

So, what "should" you do? You have several choices: 1. You can find a way to express yourself in a "childlike way," a way that fits you. 2. You can do nothing, consider it your failure for not responding with childlikeness, and forgive him for infuriating you. 3. You can become such a fine person that you don't become angry. 4. You can find another acceptable way of expressing your anger.

If you are a woman who becomes angry frequently and it creates severe problems in your marriage, I urge you face this problem honestly. Develop your spirituality so you can reduce this flaw in your character. Also, study and apply childlike anger. You will eliminate many painful moments. In some cases this principle alone can save a marriage. And, if you cannot express childlike anger, as explained in Chapter 24, find another acceptable way to express your troubled feelings. It will have everything to do with a loving relationship, free from resentments.

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