"I am a 48 year old male, a journalist and former college professor. . . I have recently taken an interest in issues of femininity and feminism coinciding with my recent marriage to a young Filipino woman. I felt I had to go to the Philippines to find a real woman.

"I feel that Western women have lost the art of femininity. . . have become infected by feminism and are quite confused. They are becoming like men, are selfish and have forgotten how to love. Your message deserves a wide audience . . . Thanks for taking this essential leadership role."

And from another man, also received this month:

"Several years ago I fell in love with an extremely feminine woman and wondered how it was she could be so irresistibly attractive to me and have such a powerful effect on me. Then one day I found F.W. in my mothers's closet and being a voracious reader and very curious began to read it. It was a shocking experience because it appeared you had studied this woman and simply described her characteristics. She was not an American. She was a Spaniard.

"I now know the reasons behind the attraction and power. But I also know that her culture is vastly more feminine than our own American culture. There seems to be almost a dislike among American women for femininity, whereas the Spanish women enjoy it immensely. She did not study your book. Those qualities were in her as a result of her culture and her upbringing. Americans, it seems, are not so fortunate to have these advantages.

"I have spoken to many women who have read your book and they just don't seem to get it. I have longed to bring this woman, or any Spaniard for that matter, to America to show my female friends what a feminine woman does. This, of course would not work. They would resent the effort.

"Above all else I desire a feminine woman. I grew up on novels which presented the image of a feminine woman but until I met this woman I had no idea what effect true femininity would have on a man. Good luck in your efforts!"

Those of you who have studied Fascinating Womanhood know that it teaches us four ways to be feminine - in appearance, manner, nature and in living our feminine role. Concentrate on these four ways to be feminine and take note of your husbands reaction, along with the improvement in your marriage.

F.W. DISCUSSION GROUP:

You are invited to join us in this world wide discussion on Marriage, the Fascinating Way. You may post your point of view, comments, questions or suggestions. If you have questions directed to Mrs. Andelin, please email her at andelins@sofnet.com. Click here for the discussion group.

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